Today, he manages tension of holding to the traditional biblical teaching on sexuality while loving his gay parents.
Biola Magazine reached out to him to talk about his book and his perspective on how Christians can better navigate the complexities of this issue with truth and grace. What do you mean by this? How would you like to see this play out?
Christians can own this issue by caring enough to get to know the whole person. I asked why she still called herself a lesbian. Her response was that she had a community filled with friends, acceptance, a cause and deep feelings. It reminded me that people have depth. Care enough about a person not to reduce them to their sexual orientation.
Talk about holy living down the road. Perhaps Christians can own this issue by being kind and making a new friend. What should that look like?
Treat people like actual people. Embrace the tension by developing friendships over meals, coffee and more. Try to understand who they are as a person experiences, hopes, dreams, fears, etc. You write that one definition of love is holding the tension of grace and truth. What do you mean by this and who do you think models this sort of love well? The uncomfortable feeling in the tension of grace and truth is love.
However, love never harms. A theological conviction should never be a catalyst to treat someone poorly. We can accept the person without approving of their choice to be in or pursue a same-sex relationship.
Love people, but remember what the Bible teaches. Deepen your relationships, but Christian parent response to homosexuality firm to conviction. Never give up on the person or Scripture. Love never takes sides. Love has no exception clause. I see this love lived out by some parents of gay teenagers.
These parents love their kids no matter what and nothing about their relationship changes. They thank the teen for trusting them with this part of their life. At the same time, they hold true to what Scripture says not only about sexuality, but also about loving others.
To the LGBT person: People are entitled to their beliefs. If these people are loved ones being loving towards you why shut them out?
They might be intolerant in your mind for not agreeing with you. However, are they treating you poorly? Do they love you less?
Do they not value you anymore? Christians make too many mistakes when someone comes out to them. They try to advise counseling. At some point, they will throw out Bible verses concerning homosexuality or marriage.
Emotions like depression and anger will usually set in. Unfortunately, these are all the wrong things to do. This is a moment to listen and affirm your love for them.
Think of it this way: The people coming out to you have chosen to share a very intimate and personal part of their life because you are someone they value. You can never get this moment back, and responding the wrong way is devastating. How should a Christian respond if invited to a same-sex marriage ceremony?
Is attending a gay wedding a tacit affirmation of the sacredness of the vows being exchanged? Attending may put you in a difficult position as one who believes marriage is for a man and woman. There might be a chance to share your faith with others at the wedding. Later, when the newlywed has a season of doubt or turmoil, you might be the person they turn to giving you the chance to share Jesus.
But there are also reasons Christian parent response to homosexuality you may not want to attend. Hurt feelings may result, but God created marriage for him and the couple.
You need to stand for truth, and this might be one of those times. In the end, the couple might recognize and remember your integrity. Either option could Christian parent response to homosexuality relational difficulty, doctrinal tension or Christian parent response to homosexuality baggage. Pray about it and represent Jesus well with your decision. If celibacy is the only option for a same-sex-attracted Christian who wants to remain biblically faithful you argue this in the bookwhat can the church do to better minister to these people?
Sexual intimacy is from God for a man and woman in the covenant of marriage. The church must create an atmosphere of relational opportunities for single people.
For example, if a single person is sick, hospitalized, or needs help — the church should support them through small groups, funds and other ways. Celibacy is a sacrifice for Jesus, and the church needs to prepare for that sacrifice. Give people margin for God to work in their lives. Healing and spiritual heart surgery takes time. Help people to feel safe about admitting struggle without fear of backlash.
Train youth leaders to listen and ask the right questions. Create support for parents of gay teenagers. Spend time with LGBT people outside and inside your church they are there. Listen, ask questions and learn. Anna December 29, at 9: The whole article is condescending.
I'm sure it is well intended, but it certainly doesn't come out and recognize the human rights issues and the violence, intimidation, bullying, shaming, blaming, hatred which gays and transgendered have suffered and continue to suffer from the hands of some Christians, including Christian governments. It would help to have a clear 'this is wrong' instead of a sort of 'this doesn't work, afterall we want to convert them' attitude.
How about, 'They are just fine as they are! This is an example of projection. Let's say that you are being very critical, you flip it and make the other person the critical one. That way you don't have to be aware of what you yourself are doing.
Homophobia and prejudice and hatred towards those who are different in their sexual is fading, I think in Christian parent response to homosexuality the majority of churches will be 'gay friendly' you might say. I can't say that a church who still looks at them as being unaccaptable as they are is 'gay friendly'.
There are of churches who are no longer practice prejudice. All you have to do is look at the hypocracy involved in the strong negative reaction to gay people compared to that ofsay, divorced people. Jesus talked a great deal about divorce. You don't really see people getting all worked up about having divorced people in their churches, or people who are living together.
That's because we don't have a societal prejudice against such. When society changes, the churches will follow. Too bad that the right wing churches couldn't lead-they always seem to be a decade or so behind.
I went to Biola long long ago and they were always behind the times. I remember this one poor professor who got fired for being gay.
How sad is that? Caleb December 30, at 6: Anna, I'm the author of the book "Messy Grace" and the interviewee of this article, I would love to discuss your thoughts with you.